Who Am I

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How long have you been doing what you do, and how did you become a Transformation Coach? 

To answer this question, it’s probably best that I share with you a defining moment, and a resulting “compelling story”, that brought me to where I am today – coaching women like you, that have been through an unwanted divorce, on exactly how to move forward and attract the right man, gain more confidence, and feel healthier inside and out. That defining moment in my life happened in 2010.

A few months into that year I closed the first business I ever started. I thought I would succeed and it did not happen. For the first time ever, I failed. My parents told me growing up that if I just put my mind to it, I could make anything work. But I was pouring my heart and soul into this business, serving clients I loved, and the cashflow just wasn't enough.

A few months prior, I had been diagnosed with borderline high cholesterol, which was part of my family history. Up until this point, I was the girl who could eat anything and never gain a pound. So, I took it on myself to figure out how to lose 15 pounds and at 31 get into the best shape of my life. 

It didn't take long for me to see my next business step - starting an online fitness coaching business. As I threw myself into that, helping other people to turn around their lives and get healthier, I soon returned to the world of being successful and producing results. Little did I suspect that my feeling on top of the world would be short-lived. Two years later, my marriage of 14 years was over. I didn't see it coming. I survived a painful divorce. 

Coming up for air after that loss was difficult, but I knew that something that devastating had to hold lessons. And I also knew I didn't want to be single and alone forever. 

I'd moved out of the home I loved into a one bedroom apartment. All I kept saying to myself was: "Why am I here? I didn't do anything wrong!” My life as I knew it was over. How did I get to be 34 years old, divorced, and barely know how to change a light bulb let alone live without a man? Now what?" 

First I began reading books on understanding the mindset of men so that I could get a clue about what happened.  Then several months after my divorce I realized that I did want and hope to be in a new relationship.  BUT, I knew in order for that to happen I needed to learn what a ‘normal’ relationship looked like so as not only to attract it, but to know how to function in that relationship.  So, I began reading all I could on my co-dependent issues, communication style, mindset, dating, and marriage.  And then applying what I learned by transforming my outlook, attitude, and understanding of men and relationships.  As a result, just 18 months after my divorce was final I had met and married the love of my life.    

I cleaned up my past emotional baggage and started teaching other women how they too can attract the love of their life and the husband they dreamed of or wanted. I watch the best of themselves come out knowing that true love is possible and happiness is their new reality. I have since made a commitment to dedicate the rest of my professional life to helping other women who've gone through an unwanted divorce find love again and know how to get it right this time to have the marriage and relationship they've always dreamed of. Along with more self-confidence and the outside reflecting the inner growth and transformation. 

Since then, I’ve worked with many private clients, facilitated countless groups. I lived my dream of traveling to Puerto Rico and earning an income while I travel with my online business; and I have created Get Real and Heal - Action Attraction System, my signature 9-Step System to help you attract the relationship you want and deserve or to reach any goal you set your mind to. 

Who are your clients?

I work with women just like you who have been through an unwanted divorce, been through the grieving process and are now working on healing and moving forward with the desire to be in a new relationship. However, they have never been taught how to do the inner work to prepare themselves to attract the right man so that they can have the new loving relationship and marriage they desire. I also work with women that have reached that midpoint in life and are ready to transform and upgrade their mindset, body, and life!  

• Women between 35-60
• Divorced or currently married
• With or without children
• Entrepreneurs and Professionals 
• Homemakers 
• Struggling with low self-worth, low self-confidence, negative thinking, relationship fears and insecurities, poor body image, etc.
• Want to lose weight and get healthier

What makes you different from other Transformation Life Coaches?

Although we will touch upon exercise, time management, and other “coach-y” type things, you will have me as a relationship attraction expert and consultant. I work with you on transforming your mindset and inner beliefs so that you become the best version of you. What that means is that you will have a keeping-it-real, get-it-together genuine and authentic Transformation Coach. I’m impatient for results, so you will always get quick, honest, and direct feedback from me. 

I’m concerned with how to get your mindset into the right place so that you become the best version of yourself, gain more confidence, and attract the right man or other goal, so you can have that happily ever after you’ve been dreaming of. You may not always like what I have to say – but it will always be the truth. The truth about what’s standing in the way of you getting the relationship you want and how to get rid of it NOW so you can attract the right mate! I also throw in a huge dose of humor – ‘cause that’s just me – and motivation of course – because for this program, I’m your #1 fan and cheerleader! 

What type of personality do you work best with and what is expected of me? 

Get Real and Heal - Action Attraction System was created for women who are committed to their success and are super-ready to start making changes and know exactly what steps to take to attract that new man, gain more confidence and a better mindset and physical health. My clients have the attitude “Just tell me what to do and I’m on it! I’m ready!” Consider what you do with me to be the express lane on your journey giving you everything you need to know to attract the right man, gain more confidence, better mindset and physical health. You will be expected to take serious and consistent action. NO EXCUSES – just a new and fresh way of thinking along with full support while you achieve your incredibly exciting goal of attracting your new husband, gaining confidence, seeing yourself in the new light of your improved mindset, and physical health!

For what type of women is your system NOT going to work?

I am very picky about who I work with because I am results driven. Those that have a habit of making excuses for not getting their assignments done, those who are cynical or skeptical, those who lack humility and vulnerability, who are not open, and/or who want to challenge every aspect of the process. If this sounds like you, I respectfully ask that you refrain from contacting me as we probably wouldn’t work well together anyway, and I don’t want you to waste your time or money. I mean, if you’ve already figured everything out and got all the answers - you don’t need me, right?     

This is also NOT for those who are financially desperate or in financial crisis. It has been my experience that people who are having financial challenges are preoccupied mentally with worry and stress and unable to focus on our work together and implement my process and suggestions. If this is your situation - NO PROBLEM! I have been there, lived that! We all have. Go ahead and request to join my FREE Facebook Group: Get Real & Heal – Life After an Unwanted Divorce and dive into our discussions and information. When your financial circumstances improve – contact me so we can begin our work together.  

Now, I am not a therapist, counselor, medical doctor, personal trainer, or mental health professional. I am a Coach. As a Coach my job is to help you discover and change aspects of your thinking and habits so that you can reach your goals and transform your life. 

Also, although I am a deeply spiritual person and extensively involved in faith based activities - I do not regard this coaching work as a ministry, nor part of my ministry. I do all of my faith based spiritual activities as a willing volunteer, for free. Thus, our work together will not include anything ‘spiritual’, so far as any sort of practice or process.     

What exactly is your Get Real and Heal - Action Attraction Signature System and what does it include?

1. Get clear. First we will work together to determine exactly what it is that you want. Really crystallizing what that relationship or goal looks like. 

2. Find Yourself. We will focus on discovering your strengths, likes, and needs. Truly understanding who you are, and what you bring to the table in a relationship or other goal.

3. Make room. We will work together to identify physical and emotional barriers that are currently preventing you from attracting the relationship you deserve or other goal.

4. Release. We will identify and clear up inner limiting beliefs and resistance that are in the way of you attracting the relationship you want or goal you are trying to achieve.

5. Prepare. We address mindset, personality, and communication blocks and create a plan to adjust these behaviors to prepare you to be successful in your next relationship or when you reach your goal. 

6. Keep your head in the game and stay focused. We work together to develop a daily mindset routine to help the internal changes and upgrades you’ve been making stick and to help you stay focused on the relationship or goal you’re working towards and not let fear or self-doubt creep in. 

7. Create Energy and momentum. An exercise routine keeps you focused and energized. I will create a personalized exercise and nutrition program for you. If you’re feeling motivated and on point physically - that radiates into every aspect of your life. 

8. Go for it. Celebrate! We discuss ways to put yourself out there and keep trying. There is no ‘failure’, just opportunities to learn and grow from. 

9. Be patient - but stay ready - it’s coming! Timing is everything and sometimes it can be hard to wait for what we want. We will talk about strategies to stay focused on the plan so that you don’t get side tracked. You must believe this with every fiber of your being. You can’t put your effort and energy into something and it not produce a result. 

Does this really work?

Yes! By doing the inner work and becoming the best version of you, you’ll gain more confidence and be able to attract love or other goal, and live happy. 

What results can I expect?

• Get clear on what you want in a potential husband or other goal. 
• Gain incredible self- confidence and a massive increase in your self-worth.
• Learn proven techniques for releasing your internal resistance and self-sabotaging tendencies so you can take action and attract the relationship you want and deserve; or other goal. 
• Learn proven goal setting and mindset techniques that can apply to all the areas of your life, to create the lifestyle you want and deserve. 
• Get in shape and start looking/feeling better and healthier. 
• Develop a personality and communication style that attracts loving, meaningful, relationships into your life.   
• A strategy for staying on track with your goals and never settling for less than you deserve. 

How can I guarantee myself that I will get results in record time?

Do all of your homework and assignments. Be totally committed to the process and to making changes. Understand that this is a proven process that works if you take action and implement all of the steps. YOU are 100% responsible for your results.  

Jamila, based on everything I’ve read and heard about you, I know you’re the one I want to work with. What are my options for getting started with you?

Congratulations on making a decision for your success! I’m honored and happy to work with you on achieving your relationship goals. I do prefer to work with my clients one-on-one to really help them get faster results using my “Get Real & Heal: How to Thrive After an Unwanted Divorce, Find Love Again and Live Happy” 90 Day Program. However, I also have one-on-one and group coaching programs that are not related to healing after unwanted divorce.  The best way for me to determine how best to serve you is for you to SCHEDULE a FREE Discovery & Action call.